October 27th, 2020
What Do You Do When Someone Uses Power Over You?
When coercive power is used on us to change our behavior, we immediately adopt one of these three possible responses: […]
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October 14th, 2020
Tales from a P.E.T. Kid…Who became a P.E.T. Instructor…Who’s Now a First-time Mom
As a P.E.T. kid and instructor of the Gordon model myself, I was really looking forward to having a baby. […]
September 23rd, 2020
Isn’t Active Listening Just Another Way to Manipulate People?
First, let’s define Active Listening. Active Listening is a special way of feeding back your understanding of what the other […]
September 16th, 2020
Who’s Helping the Parents?
(from the P.E.T. book, 2019 revised edition) Everybody blames parents for the troubles of youth and for the troubles that […]
August 13th, 2020
Using Active Listening When Your Child is Upset
(excerpted from the P.E.T. workbook) In P.E.T., we use a conceptual Behavior Window to view behaviors of others = what […]
August 6th, 2020
“But I Was Just Trying To Help…”
Throughout our lives, we have learned a variety of ways to help other people when they have strong feelings, thoughts […]
July 15th, 2020
Tips on How to Handle Values Collisions in the Age of COVID-19
It’s official. I’ve been kicked off the guest list for an upcoming family wedding! Turns out, it’s payback for a […]
June 10th, 2020
How to Say No with Respect for Yourself and Others
You may know that one of the essential skills we teach in our programs is the I-Message. And there are […]
June 10th, 2020
Why Don’t More Dads Come to Parent Effectiveness Training Classes?
Oftentimes in P.E.T. classes the majority of the participants are mothers, and this is common around the world. However, Gordon […]
May 13th, 2020
How Active Listening Helped Me Get “Unstuck”
I am an anxious person by nature, a germaphobe stuck in a consistent state of nervousness. In late February, as […]