By Linda Adams, President of GTI
August 26 will mark three years since Dr. Gordon’s passing and in commemoration we are offering to you “A Credo for My Relationships with Others” which he wrote in 1978 and which is an integral part of all of our courses.
Here at Gordon Training International, we continue the work he started by making the Gordon Model available in more places around the world. Last year, Thailand, Estonia, South Africa and Turkey became a part of our international cadre and we are very happy to welcome each of those representatives. We are excited to announce that we now have a representative in the United Arab Emirates and will conduct the first PET Instructor Training Workshop in Dubai in October. And currently we’re in negotiations with organizations in Indonesia, China and Malaysia.
It is very gratifying for me personally to develop relationships with representatives in countries where the Gordon Model is not yet available. That’s because I believe that no matter what our religious beliefs or what political system we live under, people in every culture have the same basic needs to be understood and accepted, to express themselves and let others know who they are, to resolve their conflicts without losing and ultimately, to strive to become what they are capable of being.
A Credo for My Relationships with Others
You and I are in a relationship which I value and want to keep. We are also two separate persons with our own individual values and needs.
So that we will better know and understand what each of us values and needs, let us always be open and honest in our communication.
When you are experiencing a problem in your life, I will try to listen with genuine acceptance and understanding in order to help you find your own solutions rather than imposing mine. And I want you to be a listener for me when I need to find solutions to my problems.
At those times when your behavior interferes with what I must do to get my own needs met, I will tell you openly and honestly how your behavior affects me, trusting that you respect my needs and feelings enough to try to change the behavior that is unacceptable to me. Also, whenever some behavior of mine is unacceptable to you, I hope you will tell me openly and honestly so I can try to change my behavior.
And when we experience conflicts in our relationship, let us agree to resolve each conflict without either of us resorting to the use of power to win at the expense of the other’s losing. I respect your needs, but I also must respect my own. So let us always strive to search for a solution that will be acceptable to both of us. Your needs will be met, and so will mine–neither will lose, both will win.
In this way, you can continue to develop as a person through satisfying your needs, and so can I. Thus, ours can be a healthy relationship in which both of us can strive to become what we are capable of being. And we can continue to relate to each other with mutual respect, love and peace.
Dr. Thomas Gordon
Copyright 1978 Gordon Training International