parenting listening to kids

February 19th, 2021

How to Talk More with Your Kids

By: Dr. Thomas Gordon

One of the most effective and constructive ways of responding to children’s feeling-messages or problem-messages is the “door-opener” or “invitation […]

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leadership training skills in a group

February 18th, 2021

How Realistic is Group Decision-Making? (Spoiler Alert: Very)

By: Dr. Thomas Gordon

Think of the leader of the management team as also being a member. However, leaders usually have special responsibilities in […]

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cost of using authoritarian power in leadership training

January 12th, 2021

“Okay, You’re the Boss.”

By: Dr. Thomas Gordon

(from the L.E.T. book) What power does to leaders who use it is a topic seldom discussed in books and […]

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Father and kids parenting P.E.T. method

January 12th, 2021

What Precisely Is the P.E.T. Method of Parenting?

By: Dr. Thomas Gordon

(Newly-found speech from 1999!) When people ask me:  what exactly is the P.E.T. method of parenting, I usually feel somewhat […]

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parenting parent effectiveness training

September 16th, 2020

Who’s Helping the Parents?

By: Dr. Thomas Gordon

(from the P.E.T. book, 2019 revised edition) Everybody blames parents for the troubles of youth and for the troubles that […]

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May 6th, 2020

Is Your Primary Relationship With Your Spouse?

By: Dr. Thomas Gordon

From Dr. Thomas Gordon’s P.E.T. book. Many parents look to their children for their primary relationship, rather than to their […]

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February 5th, 2020

What Makes a Good Relationship?

By: Dr. Thomas Gordon

In honor of Valentine’s Day, we thought this topic would be a good one to share. And while it’s not […]

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maslow hierarchy of needs

January 22nd, 2020

What’s the First Step in a Conflict? Define the problem.

By: Dr. Thomas Gordon

By:  Dr. Thomas Gordon and Speed “Noel” Burch (co-author of the T.E.T. book) Define the problem in terms of unmet […]

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Tools on bench and hanging on wall

November 7th, 2019

Helpful Leadership Tools: How to Deal with Resistance a la Shifting Gears

By: Dr. Thomas Gordon

For reasons that aren’t clear, it seems that some people believe I-Messages should work every time, should without exception get […]

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April 16th, 2019

Parents, Can You Become More Accepting of Yourselves?

By: Dr. Thomas Gordon

Studies show that a direct relationship exists between how accepting people are of others and how accepting they are of […]

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